The history of romance: what about love? Hurt money!
Attention and star sign Reading with watercress Meeting more good books Last year, there was a love affair report after 95. According to the report, 4 of girls hope that ideal lovers will spend tens of thousands of dollars in the month. In short, the standard of love is allowed to be measured by money. It is better to talk about romance than buy a house. The inside of love becomes money calculation. Do you say this view of love is wrong? Not exactly. It's just too realistic and too safe. In the eyes of young people, falling in love has become a risky investment, and investment and return must be clearly calculated. To treat the opposite sex, we can put a label on him: Phoenix man, peacock, Gao Fushuai, Bai Fumei. With labels, value can be clearly calculated. If we choose to talk about a relationship, we will carefully calculate the energy, time and money we need to put in. Love will expire, it will depreciate, and work and social life will always be "rewarded". Marriage is a matter of postponed consideration. It is too worthless to change a love that will soon disappear after a lifetime. Not only is everyone, but this era is also implying that love can be calculated. Valentine's day, 520 and Tanabata, "love TA to buy and buy TA", it seems that only products displayed on the counter can calculate how deep we love. Before marriage, you should prepare a house for TA, try to get married before 30 years old, do not delay TA's youth, so as to prove that you really love TA. If the monthly income is only 10000, then even the mortgage can not afford. So you see, since the cost is so high, why do we need to talk about it? So some young people will see the likes of people will move, but they will not act. They would rather put their feelings into the virtual world. In recent years, a kind of hand travel is especially popular, called "virtual love". Love games can be provided to you. "Perfect lover" -
They will send good night's bedtime greetings, overtime greetings and encouragement before the show. If you send any message, they will reply very soon. You can hear soft words on any phone call. Love and producer
On the face of it, these games have built an ideal love paradise for us, which is independent of desire and unrelated status. On the other hand, we will also ask these "virtual objects" to be good enough, and look for the soul as well as to understand you. This is precisely the reality of love we can not achieve the conditions, become a disguised material request. In order to develop as soon as possible with virtual objects, we also need to pay for games. drill stone "And" Gold coin " In the final analysis, this game is just a more efficient and low-cost way to materialize love. Realistic love is full of care, virtual love is full of nothingness. As a result, the rate of singleton rises year after year, and we dare not love, nor will we love. In this era, we have more material wealth, more independent and free attitude towards life than ever before, but always in the awkward situation of "lack of love". Because most people no longer care about the wonderful love fermented by time. It is to find values that match their "values" and choose a more cost-effective love. Afraid of no return, ready to leave at any time; afraid to pay, as a bed companion; fear of commitment, marriage and children dragged on. Modern people are too tired to talk about love.
The world is just to fill their belly, like a huge apple, a huge wine bottle and a huge breast, and we are babies, always looking forward, hoping, but always frustrated. Our character is hard to adapt to the requirements of exchange, acceptance and consumption. Everything - spiritual and material - has become the object of exchange and consumption. Another interesting phenomenon is that the Qiong Yao series of love that has been burning throughout our childhood has been spun out by netizens today as "dog blood" and "three views are not right". The story of Lagerstroemia in "Huan Zhu Ge Ge": "Mountain without edge, heaven and earth together, dare to go with the emperor". 。 For us now, it is not worthwhile to replace an uncertain love with heaven and earth. And the phrase "a curtain of dreams". "You just lost one leg. Purple is lost in love." From the present point of view, this is almost against humanity. In fact, Qiong Yao style love has once represented the value orientation of an era. In 90s, we shifted from planned economy to reform and opening up. The freedom of love is the sustenance of people's Liberation of personality, and it is an adventurous attitude. Qiong Yao style love lets us see the possibility of pure, passionate, free love and supremacy of love. In that age of restraint and restraint, this kind of love is a kind of confrontation tradition, which is desirable. And in our age, love is no longer so important. On the one hand, women in our age are more independent and no longer need to rely on love and marriage to achieve personal value. Participation in work and different social roles are our mainstream values. On the other hand, in the age of interest, love is vulgar, and it is hard to become an expression of individual freedom and rebellion. Here, I think of a masterpiece, Jane Eyre, which represents the love concept of an era, and it has been our idealized love. Year of publication: 2007-8-1 In the age of author Charlotte, "The condition of a woman's survival is that men support them and they serve men." In those days, women's status was low. They were only "tools" for the husband and son. Charlotte sent several poems he wrote to Robert Sauce, a famous poet laureate at that time, but unexpectedly touched a big nail. In reply to her letter, the great poet said: Literature is not a woman's cause; there is no female writer in England, and she has no talent. It is in this situation that Jane Eyre presents a kind of life that women yearn for. Equality, mutual attraction, spirit and body give each other.
Do you think that because I am poor, obscure, unbeautiful and short, I have no soul and no heart? You are mistaken! My soul is the same as yours, and my heart is exactly the same as yours. I am speaking to you now, not through customs, conventions, nor even through mortal flesh, but in the spirit of my Spirit speaking to you, as two have passed through the grave, and we are equal before God's heel, because we are equal. Jane Eyre is a symbol of women as an independent personality. Its love view is also. "The other side belongs to me completely, and I belong to the other side." This feeling of extreme devotion.
"I think I am so happy and happy that it is hard to describe in words, because I am completely my husband's life, just like he is completely my life." This sentence is put to the present and may also be spit out by netizens. We no longer pursue the complete ownership of love, but also yearn for individual independence and freedom. Therefore, in the face of love, we can not be as simple as Jane Eyre.
"Return to you, I feel very happy, where you are, where is my home - my only home." Jane Eyre can be so sure of his love, so firmly with Rochester. ? And now, are you sure this is the person you want? Are you sure you want to live with him forever? Therefore, people who think they love each other hesitate to wander before the threshold of various conditions. People quickly invest in a love affair and quickly pull away. Now, this claim is full of calculations. "Do not seek everlasting, only what you have". Love is everywhere. In Jane Eyre, the immortal and pure love of butterfly lovers, Bao Dai, Romeo and Juliet died in this era. Love goes down the altar. In this era, the meaning of people's life is endowed with commodity value. Consumerism is popular, making people accustomed to acquiring pleasure with material and abandoning spiritual pursuit. Therefore, the meaning of love at the spiritual level has disappeared, becoming more a material exchange and a fragile commodity. Many girls choose to marry someone who has a house and a car. Obviously, they don't want love, just matter. In the final analysis, not pure love has disappeared, love is vulgar, but people's reality. Love is no longer a symbol of equality and freedom. It is no longer a symbol of adventure and individuality. The modern love coming down from the altar is not restrained by tradition, but more direct and direct. There are more and more software for making friends, rocking and Lily networks. We can have many identities and feelings at the same time. The flood of love brings a one night stand. Love can no longer be expected. People can no longer invest more in a relationship. Love has become an instant pleasure. But true love is never material and happy. In the age of Jane Eyre, love is a life and a pair, bound with responsibilities and obligations.
I would like her to become my wife (husband). From today on, we will have mutual support and support each other, whether good or bad, rich or poor, disease or health. Love and cherish each other until death can separate us. Remember a period of wonderful work, Kevin Tsai once said. "It's horrible to tie up two independent people with a wedding vow." So we become independent planets, freer and more lonely. Finally, it is reduced to material slaves.
You can only exchange love with trust and trust with trust. If you want to appreciate art, you must be an artistic person; if you want to exert influence on others, you must be a person who can promote and inspire others. Art of love True love is rare, because it is a kind of existence of moths to fire, and it is also a kind of trust which is completely open to each other. The change of times makes love no longer as it used to be. This is a progress of the times, or a lack of modern emotion. But the only thing we can confirm is that if we love a person, sincere feelings and dedicated devotion are the right way to open love.
You can only exchange love with trust and trust with trust???